Huna Healing-5
 

III. Complexes, Guilt and Stress

To live in the material realm each of us must be able to deal with the events which are external to us, our perception of them and how they affect our physical body. Each event, depending on the value we assign to it, has a chemical as well as emotional effect on our body and hence on our lower and middle selves.

Those individuals who are able to integrate both positive and negative experiences are more likely to be balanced. They will generally be capable of being more realistic, cautious when necessary, fun loving and joyful when appropriate. They will more likely be ready to deal with and react intelligently and meaningfully with any situation that may arise in their life. The integrated person realizes life is fraught with danger, but recognizes that it is also filled with beauty and love. They take that which is dangerous and negative in stride, aware of what they can and cannot handle. They create positive support teams, chains of command and a realistic hierarchy of resources and they are always ready to go into action to protect themselves and their loved ones.

The non-integrated individual reacts differently. They are generally less likely to be able to integrate past experiences'. Frequently they have not fully dealt with nor learned what needed to learn from their life experiences. They are less likely to be prepared for what they meet along the way. They are more often unrealistic about their goals and circumstances. They are frequently obstructed by their past experiences. Because of all of this, they are usually more unprotected in their day to day living of life. At the extremes they are either unprepared for what they face or life becomes a living nightmare for them.

Also, because they do not integrate their life experiences well, they are often filled with fearful over the possibility of further insult or injury. They may worry about recurrences and about their ability to protect themselves from future negative experiences. This may leave them unable to use available internal or external resources and unable to rely on the support of others around them. They may be afraid of asking for help, or not know how to ask for help, nor who to trust. Ultimately they tend to learn that if they do not face the issues at hand they feel better in the short run, yet they may entirely be unable to recognize that this is a poor strategy in the long run.

When we are faced with any life experience, positive or negative, these events are experienced by our lower self first. The lower self must determine if it is necessary or safe for the middle self to know what has really occurred. If the material is extremely traumatic, the lower self may choose to limit what the middle self can know. This process of selection is essential or the middle self will be bogged down in minutia and stimulation that it cannot deal with.

The process by which the lower self deals with each event is called rationalization. That is, it must incorporate the substance of the event into the life picture or pictures created by the middle self. The events must fit into the already agreed upon rational and orderly world that the middle and lower self have created for themselves. An example of this might be, you see a person coming toward you, the lower self must rationalize whether this person is a friend or an enemy. If the lower self believes that the person is a friend then it must integrate the person's body posture, speed, facial expression, whether he has a weapon in his hand and whether he appears hostile or friendly.

In this example the event is happening in the present and all decisions have to be made quickly. If the clues suggest a hostile intention, the Stress Mechanism will be activated. This process works similarly with events which occurred in the past or are expected to occur in the future. In a second example an individual is involved in an auto collision during which he is knocked unconscious. In the same accident his friend who was a passenger in the car is killed. Upon wakening he calls for his friend and is told that the friend was killed in the accident. He may not want to believe this or totally block out the accident entirely. He may have amnesia for the events surrounding the accident and his friend's death. It may take him weeks or even months before memories come back and he may have guilt over the events even if he had absolutely nothing to do with the death of his friend. Eventually, as he is able to rationalize what happened his memory returns and the guilt he experienced subsides as he is able to accept that there is no legitimate reason to blame himself.

When experiences are too traumatic or when they cannot be immediately rationalized the lower self may suppress the experience. In such cases the middle self may not have any memory (remember, it is the conscious, aware self and memories are stored in the lower self) of what happened from just before the trauma, until sometime after the event. This is not done intentionally by the middle self to block out the experience, but rather it is done by the lower self to protect the middle self. When the lower self believes that the middle self will be unable to face issues that are too painful, it often simply suppresses them. It pushes them down into the subconscious (lower self memory) where they cannot be heard or seen by the middle self.

The lower self may initially do this only to protect the middle self at that time the events occur, it may need the time for itself in order to rationalize the experience and fit it into the life picture s held by the middle and lower selves. However, since life continually moves on, the lower self may lose track and become occupied with other momentary experiences and as time goes by the event's move farther and farther away making them less and less important.

It is clear however, that the lower self knows that these suppressed conflicts still exist and it also knows that they must eventually be resolved and rationalized. It wants to complete the rationalization process and for the most part most experiences are eventually rationalized even if it takes years to do this. Meanwhile, these unrationalized experiences may be pushing on the middle self, in the form of dreams, nightmares, flashbacks or emotional outbursts that sneak out before the lower self can suppress them. The lower self, on the other hand, also wants them completed so to some degree it allows these events to take place, allowing information to leak to the middle self to desensitize it. In the best of all worlds this might work well but in many people it presents years of pain and torture dealing with traumatic experiences that are long since past history.

If we are experiencing negative emotions and internal conflict we can often help ourselves by working to bring these experiences up into the light so that they can be finalized and ultimately rationalized and integrated into our life picture. Only in this way can we release the stress mechanism and release our self from their negative effect.

An example of this is a child who was molested and because of fear for her life and guilt created by the molester blocks out the memory of the actual events. Over many years she may have flashbacks or nightmares, they may be distinct or fragmented, but since she has no conscious memory of the events they are misunderstood or seen as traumatic and once again suppressed by her lower self as it tries to protect her. Only through working on what happened, bringing out the experience into the open, openly experiencing the pain and rationalizing it appropriately that she was not responsible, that another person forced the events on her and that she is blameless and guiltless can she finally be set free. If these experiences are not dealt with and rationalized, the unresolved conflict associated with them will eventually trigger the stress mechanism. Once triggered the stress mechanism must ultimately be released, if not, this can inevitably lead us toward physical, mental, emotional or spiritual illness.

It is important that we learn what must be learned from these experiences that we gain from them and grow from them and that we learn to accept reality, even if we do not like it. Then and only then, can we let go and be free to be our real and true self.

All of these mechanisms are part of the strongest and most important mandate of life, the Survival Mechanism, the Stress Mechanism. When such situations are not resolved, they act as blocks to future growth, to wholeness and to realizing the joy of the gift of life. They can also block us from having our Huna Prayers answered. When we have one or more blocks that become linked together we call them complexes.

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